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Get a Voki now! Renee's Page Renee Bio:  Hi my name is Renee Collett and recently moved from Queensland to NSW in mid 2008. I was changed my career goal from being a hairdresser to a paralegal or something within that field. I know its just a little bit different. My partner is in the Royal Australia Navy as a Aeronatical Engieer and he is the reason why I moved to the south coast. My sister and her husband is also in the navy so I guess you could say that we are a true navy family. I am turning twenty this year and I am going to University next year to study a bachelor of arts majoring in politics. So a little about me if you want to find out more just ask me. Renee's Draft It’s not you it’s us. So your parents have informed you that they are divorcing? The first thing to do is give yourself some time to understand and process the information; you can ask your parents for a break away from the family home during this seemingly-messy time. It helps not only you, but provides your parents time to sort out the divorce. You could ask to stay at a relative's place or one of your friend’s houses, but just remember that your family will be able to understand and support you better throughout this difficult time. After having some time to come to the terms with your parents' divorce, the number one thing to remember is that it is NEVER your fault. Parents divorce for many different reasons but the love of their child is never the reason behind the spilt. Sometimes two people can be faced with difficult situations while still caring for each other, but find it hard to maintain a relationship. Your parents still love you even if they don’t love each other and while it is hard to accept change, just try to do the best you can to be adaptable.
Try to make sure that you understand and come to terms with the divorce. Many teenagers who come from a 'divorced parents situation' state that the hardest thing to come to terms with was with the hope of their parents getting back together. What you need to understand is that the last step before finalizing the divorce through the court is when they tell you. Your parents would never want to hurt you unnecessarily and as such make sure that they are 100% decided on the divorce before involving you. Once you can accept this you will be better prepared and more emotionally able to move on with your life. If you find yourself feeling depressed it is completely normal and many people cope by either talking to their family or sometimes talking to someone who can give you advice without being involved in the situation. Talk to either a school counsellor or ask your parents to seek outside help, this is a great way to talk through your emotions and feelings without feeling like someone is judging you. It is completely normal for people from divorced parents to seek help from outside sources and many people wish they had spoken to someone sooner rather than later after realising the huge positive effect it has on their lives. After the process of divorce you may notice that your parents are dating or introducing new people into the family, when this happens, it is important to remember that your parents are not replacing you. Your mum or your dad are looking for adult companionship and their love for you is not affected whatsoever by the introduction of a new member of the family. If you are feel that your parents are not taking your feelings into consideration then talk calmly to them and try to come up with a compromise. If you need some more advice on how to cope with your parents’ divorce then please feel free to email me.
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